(V)ictory Over the “What If’s”

Nothing stays the same.  Change happens every moment and we just hope it doesn’t happen every moment to us. What can we do to put ourselves in the forefront of change and manage it properly?  Ultimately, that’s up to us how we react and take action.  

 We can easily come down with a bad case of the “What If’s”.  What if it’s worse than they’re telling me?  What if I lose my job?  What if he/she won’t forgive me?  You get the picture because we’ve all been there done that and possibly as early as today. 

Here are some tips to get us through those time to the other side which is call “Knowledge and Action”. 

  • Know the theory of Self-Fulfilling Prophecy also known as You Get What You Expect.  Expect bad and negative and, bingo, it magically appears.  Expect positive and great things and slowly it will come to you.  The key is that you need to be watching for it.
  • Talk to yourself with more Positive Self talk vs. Negative Self Talk
  • Visualize the positive.  Stop dwelling on the “what if’s”.  Most won’t come true.
  • Attack the problem head on.  Without some movement towards a solution, the problem still exists for days, weeks, months at a time.
  • Be open minded.  Resist using past experience to judge the future.
  • Don’t dwell on the past.  That’s why it’s the past.  Learn from it and make leaps toward growing yourself out of the situation.
  • Don’t view life as an all or nothing proposition.  Failure stems from this thinking patten.  One thing may be wrong but not everything. 
  • Don’t’ take rejection personally.  It’s just not the right fit, right job, right moment, right person, etc… Your unique and the right fit will uniquely fit you.
  • Avoid mind reading.  Speak up and ask in a respectful manner.  We need facts not fiction to get through change. 

With the New Year right around the corner, we should make a decision to stop living in the house of “What If’’s” and move to the house of Possibility and Action.    Possibility and action lead to solutions, growth and strength in us and transcends to others around us.

 

 Sandra Larkin, CWPM
Certified Wellness Program Manager

www.sandralarkin.com

www.healthyprofitsbook.com

 

All rights reserved © 2009 Sandra Larkin Wellness Strategies, LLC

 

 

November 17th, 2009 - Posted in ABC's, attitude, change, communication, emotional, intellectual, productivity | | 0 Comments

(U)niversal Things I Recommend

I’ve been getting alot of questions about what I recommend for wellness or just life in general.  Like Oprah, here are a few of my favorites things ….

“Healthy Profits:  The 5 Elements of Strategic Wellness”by Sandra Larkin and 30 Additional Authors
         GREAT resource for individuals to put together a wellness action plan in these five areas simultaneously (physical, emotional, social, intellectual, occupational).  Includes assessments and sample plans along with advice from 30 wellness professionals.   Also, can be used as a corporate small group plan or given to corporate employees to aid with the new Healthcare Reform which includes workplace wellness.  See www.healthyprofitsbook.com

You On A Diet”by Dr. Michael F. Roizen, and Dr. Mehmet C. Oz
         Best book I’ve read for telling exactly what goes on in the body and how to move toward positive health.

“Eat This Not That”by David Zinczenko
        You see and read about your favorite foods to make better choices.  Yum and Yuck all at the same time.

Costco
           I LOVE Costco’s organic fruit and vegetables.  You don’t have to think about what to buy.  Just roll up and LOAD UP!

Prevention Magazine
           Best magazine for all around health and wellness along with tips and ways to make wellness stick.

Exercise TV
            If you own cable, this is FREE.  There are 10 minute to 1 hour exercise videos with variety.  I love this!  No excuses for lack of time. 

 Nintendo Wii and Wii Fit
           Creative ways to stimulate the mind and body.  Can include “teams” of people for a team challenge.  Yes!

Silk Soy Milk
           I use to turn my nose up at soy milk until I tasted it.  This is really good and it’s good for you.  I drink about three 8 oz glasses a day.  Dairy doesn’t like me so it’s a good move towards health.

Guidepost
          The articles are motivating and inspiring.  We all need a little of that right about now.

Keeping a food journal.
          Yes, this is work AND you will see what you are doing right and where there are gaps to improve.  This was very telling for me because I was NOT getting enough calories each day.  That’s why I was not losing weight.  I would not have known that unless I kept the food journal.

Keeping a time log.
          More gunts and groans AND it will help you manage your time and set those needed boundaries.  People will steal your time.  Don’t let them.

Sandra Larkin, CWPM
Certified Wellness Program Manager

 www.sandralarkin.com
www.healthyprofitsbook.com

All rights reserved.  Content © 2009 Sandra Larkin Wellness Strategies, LLC

November 1st, 2009 - Posted in ABC's, emotional, health, intellectual, occupational, physical, social, time management | | 1 Comments