(V)ictory Over the “What If’s”
Nothing stays the same. Change happens every moment and we just hope it doesn’t happen every moment to us. What can we do to put ourselves in the forefront of change and manage it properly? Ultimately, that’s up to us how we react and take action.
We can easily come down with a bad case of the “What If’s”. What if it’s worse than they’re telling me? What if I lose my job? What if he/she won’t forgive me? You get the picture because we’ve all been there done that and possibly as early as today.
Here are some tips to get us through those time to the other side which is call “Knowledge and Action”.
- Know the theory of Self-Fulfilling Prophecy also known as You Get What You Expect. Expect bad and negative and, bingo, it magically appears. Expect positive and great things and slowly it will come to you. The key is that you need to be watching for it.
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Talk to yourself with more Positive Self talk vs. Negative Self Talk
- Visualize the positive. Stop dwelling on the “what if’s”. Most won’t come true.
- Attack the problem head on. Without some movement towards a solution, the problem still exists for days, weeks, months at a time.
- Be open minded. Resist using past experience to judge the future.
- Don’t dwell on the past. That’s why it’s the past. Learn from it and make leaps toward growing yourself out of the situation.
- Don’t view life as an all or nothing proposition. Failure stems from this thinking patten. One thing may be wrong but not everything.
- Don’t’ take rejection personally. It’s just not the right fit, right job, right moment, right person, etc… Your unique and the right fit will uniquely fit you.
- Avoid mind reading. Speak up and ask in a respectful manner. We need facts not fiction to get through change.
With the New Year right around the corner, we should make a decision to stop living in the house of “What If’’s” and move to the house of Possibility and Action. Possibility and action lead to solutions, growth and strength in us and transcends to others around us.
Sandra Larkin, CWPM
Certified Wellness Program Manager
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November 17th, 2009 - Posted in ABC's, attitude, change, communication, emotional, intellectual, productivity | |
